Dating, engagement, marriage, honeymoon, kids, and then….blah…Do you remember when you actually dated?Do you remember when you actually had to pursue your quarry?Don’t you miss the exhilaration of conquest?After 2.2 kids, 10+ years of marriage, most men (and women) forget how much fun they had when they went out of their way to actually impress one another. If you want those feelings again (and who doesn’t) you have to actually DATE YOUR WIFE!Now I am not talking about “date night” where once every week or two, you go out to dinner or a movie without the kids…any moron can do that! If you really want to add TRUE excitement and spice into your boring life, then you must pursue and conquer. Your masculine tendencies MUST be quenched. If you want to create the smokin’ hot wife of your dreams, take some time, do some research! Talk with other people who have unlocked the “keeping it fresh” code of marriage.Excitement, intrigue, and “newness” are things that clearly stimulate the senses. However, after many years of marriage, you both know ALL of each other’s stories. You can complete each other’s sentences and you know EXACTLY what works in the bedroom. While this leads to comfort and familiarity it also leads to complacency and boredom. If you want to feel “alive” and experience a little “danger” in your sex life, then remember the following things:1. Men like to conquer. Chase your woman. Ladies, don’t make it easy.2. Any activity that adds excitement is good. Try new places, personalities, and accents.3. Talk about your fantasies. Sharing them verbally can be as exciting as acting them out.4. Treat her like a princess. The more you put her on a pedestal, the more she’ll want you.5. Talk, share, and talk some more! The more you express yourself, the easier this will be.Now, many people are too shy to play out the scenario below. My wife had the hardest time trying to pretend not to notice me and to really feel “single” for this tryst. Keep in mind the more you RELY on circumstances and chance to intertwine this exercise, the better. When you don’t KNOW what is going to happen, the excitement and natural adrenaline will build up. Role playing where you know the lines, results, and conclusion is just a show. The more you leave to chance, the better. Don’t have set lines and ideas like, “now you’ll do this, and I’ll say that” because that won’t build any tension. It will just be a play that nobody is watching.Set some ground rules and perhaps a new personality. But DO NOT let each other know anything else. The more you re-enact a scene the more predictable it will be. The more you leave the actions, lines and results to chance the more exciting it will be! Below is a little scenario I’ve use every once in a while in my 20+ years of marriage to double the excitement and triple the pleasure!· Let your wife know to be excited and to feel alive, that you must pursue and conquer.· This isn’t role playing. You both must understand each other’s real needs.· Send her out and let her buy a seductive outfit. Get edgy. A little sluty is OK.· Before you go out, tell her to go to a bar, take off her ring and relax.· Show up 15-20 minutes later and remember what you USED to do to get meet women!· Tell her NOT to immediately act interested in you. Playing hard to get makes it more fun.· It can be more stimulating if she has had a drink or two before you arrive.· If you are feeling very confident, ask her to flirt with a guy or two.· When you arrive and “win her over” both of your egos are satisfied.· Don’t end it here…when you leave, have sex in the car or go to a hotel.Dating is simply a word for the animal urges that we all have. Our DNA isn’t wired for grocery stores, cubicles, and 7 minutes of sex 2 times per week, as men we are wired to kill the wooly mammoth, protect our families from saber-toothed tigers, and populate the earth! Now the first two species are extinct. The declining masculinity of the male gender puts us on the endangered species list. Don’t let it happen to you. Let your woman know that you are a man, and that you are going to protect her and provide for her. Being strong, seductive, and strong is a definite turn on for her. After you seduce your wife again, take her back to your cave (not by the hair, necessarily) and make love like cave people! If you are smooth AND strong, she will thank you for it!
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